We Cannot Grow Alone!

I hadn’t heard of Mighty Networks until a couple of months ago on one of my Meet-Another-Coach calls.  She happened to share with me she has a member-only spiritual coach platform and I was intrigued.  “You mean a place where the only thing talked about is Spiritual Coaching?”   Sounded cool, I thought, or at least a version of this idea for the Enneagram of course!  

So I started digging in to some ideas and of course absolutely have to birth this idea!  So, come mid to late September I will be offering a Mighty Networks community for the Enneagram: From Messy to Magical.

Our Purpose?  

Through the Enneagram, we bring together Seekers so

we can wake up from humans doing to human Beings.  

(take that in for a second……)

This community will offer an affordable accountability and support network with a Weekly Calendar of events including member profiles, New member intros, Office Hours, Big Win of the Week,  daily practice accountability, optional homework, workshops, and much more.  Each month will be specifically themed around an Enneagram concept (i.e. Centers of Intelligence, Shadow, Fixation, etc).  Additionally, there will be type-specific groups so you can share the challenges and triumphs with your co-dominant-types.  A year dedicated to this Network promises to be a year taking you from Ego to Essence (at least on a much more consistent basis!).

Pre-launch price is $40/month (locked in forever).  Post launch, $50/month (not locked in).  

In the meantime (as the wheels continue to turn and I get my act together), be sure to get your friends typed so they too can join in on this very affordable personal growth journey.   WE CANNOT GROW ALONE - even this Five with a Social  Instinct blindspot can see that!

Here is the link to a free typing session:  https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/64334

Be sure to lock in your pre-launch price by letting me know if you are interested!

What that Uncomfortable Feeling is Really Telling you and more

This week’s blog is all about that uncomfortable feeling we get when people challenge us. Why exactly do you get these feelings and what can you do about it? You can read all about it here.

Soon, this Fall, I will be offering a member-only Enneagram community. As I keep learning in my class, it takes a community to help you grow. You cannot do this journey alone. It promises to be the most transformative year of your life - community, knowledge, challenges, courses, workshops and more all in one place (most included with your affordable membership fee). This is super exciting to me because it gives people the opportunity to engage in many Enneagram resources without the 1:1 coaching experience expense, many people can’t invest in themselves. So please get your friends typed so they too can join in the Fall at an exclusive pre-launch level only of $40. After I launch, this price will increase. Email me with any questions.

Here is the Free Typing session link for your friends!

Oh, the places I want to go!

Meeting new coaches on LinkedIn has proven to be quite a self-development and business development experience and has me thinking about all of the places I want my coaching practice to go. Most of the coaches I meet, want to coach me which is fine and has proven to be quite educational.

“So pitch me and I will give you feedback.” (I don’t have a pitch - yet)

“Why are you giving this away? You should be charging.” (I do, just not for typing)

“I would like to offer something in return.” (I always think this is sweet and fun, learning how others coach 1:1 offers great lessons for me personally and professionally.)

“I have an idea…. you should tape your session and have evergreen material.” (loved this idea!)

So, I continue to bounce ideas around in my head:

  • DIY self-paced Deep Dive

  • Wordsmithing the types and their journey to Essence

  • My own 7-minute practices

  • Workshops by Enneagram subject

  • Group coaching by Type (this Fall)

If you are interested in group coaching by Type this Fall, please email me with your type so I can see which ones to offer.

This week’s blog breaks down the Instincts as I have been experiencing them while Brock is at Cadet Basic Training. I continue to learn so much in my 13-month intensive course and the Instincts have proven to be yet another amazing discovery. Russ Hudson thinks they are more important than knowing your Type! Powerful stuff.

Also, if for some crazy reason you have not subscribed to Russ Hudson’s monthly practices, here is his latest: https://vimeo.com/974482779/f452b400ca?share=copy

Having so much fun meeting people. Yes, I said that.

One thing the Enneagram has taught me is my typical response to things is just that, typical. It doesn’t mean it’s me. As Russ says, “The Enneagram shows us the unseen.” Wow - I LOVE THAT. So, to my surprise, when I recognized my shadow work (the unseen) and actually worked on it, I found more fulfillment in building my coaching practice.

As a type Five, I am deeply introverted. I also covet (read hoard, possess, obsess over) my resources of time, energy, and money (and books and food and pretty much any other resource). So as I contemplated the work of a Five, I realized, I better face these demons, ahem, shadows, head-on.

I needed a way to cast my net further so I started reaching out to other PQ Intelligence coaches on LinkedIn to discover how they use PQ and teach them how PQ and the Enneagram are related. This is way out of the box for me as this would mean investing my time and energy into total strangers. To my surprise, I actually started enjoying these chats. I went from awkward, to very curious. And you know what happened? They got curious too. So fun! Meeting like-minded coaches who want to help others by sharing their gifts, does it get any better? Apparently, not for me - I LOVE THIS!

So now you can find me holed up in my little office, chatting it up with total strangers. Who would have ever guessed? That is the power of the Enneagram. And I am so thankful for it. Seeing the unseen and working on it. Priceless.

Time to get yourself typed or retyped. This Fall I will be introducing group coaching by Type and it is super important you know your number, and it feels right (even if it feels a little icky at times). Sign up here (even if we’ve already typed together).

Don’t want to wait until the Fall to invest in your journey? You can get a jump start on your personal growth with 1:1 coaching. I offer a monthly subscription for $120/month which includes two half-hour sessions (and homework, of course). You can sign up here You can cancel at any time.

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This week’s blog takes on The Lesson of the Empty Nest. You can read it here.

Shadow work sucks

Arrogantly, a few years ago, I boldly claimed I didn’t have any shadows. Either I was delusional, ill-informed or simply full of myself. Could be a combination of all three. Come to find out, we all have a minimum of three Shadows.

I was shocked to learn this recently in my Year of Conscious Living class but once it was explained, I quickly fell in line (and agreed). Yes, I hoard my resources. Check (Shadow #1). I can also get Restless (low side of my Seven arrow). Check (Shadow #2). But this last one, I had to discover while in the moment, the low side of my Eight arrow (bossiness). Check (Shadow #3).

Never had I considered myself bossy, but this wouldn’t be something I show to just anyone. Apparently, you only show this particular shadow-y side in your most secure relationships. Bossy Pants showed up on a car ride recently when I was feeling, let’s call it, triggered.

My husband likes to bring up big topics on the way home from our Burlington trips. I can almost guarantee when it is going to happen. Maybe he is tired or hungry or just deep in thought but about 20 minutes outside of Stowe, he will drop a bomb. This time it was regarding future plans and how we would probably be in Stowe longer than I might want to be.

Triggered.

I hate winters and I’m building my coaching practice so we can move. Not tomorrow, but let’s say five years out. With my dreams being pulled out from under me, I stated something along the lines, “Well, I guess I will be moving and you can visit me.” Whoa. That language NEVER comes out of my mouth. I have worked to be pretty go-with-the-flow (not my nature, just growth work). So when you start talking about having to live in long winters for longer than I care to think about, I get triggered.

What triggers you when you are with your loved ones? What is your reaction? If you need a little help discovering this third shadow, the most elusive one, email me and I can help you. Or you can look at the low side of your Growth Arrow. It will be there in all its glory. I promise. And then, the real work begins - observing, reflecting, and development (presence - the key to transformation). Have fun dealing with the suck.

Be on the lookout this Fall for Group coaching sessions by Type. We will mostly likely meet twice a month as a group. Sign ups will be in August. Stay tuned. And if you haven’t been typed…. remember I offer typing sessions for free. You’ll love it!

This week’s blog is all about Virtues. We are getting closer and closer to our True Selves! YAY you!

The Teeter Totter of Our Daily Lives

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If you have done a typing session with me, then you know at some point, I show a slide that says THE GOAL OF THE ENNEAGRAM, with a graphic of the Centers of Intelligence. I explain to the client that the goal of the Enneagram is to balance our Centers of Intelligence. But what the heck does that really mean?

In my 13 month class I’m taking, this week, I decided to ask a question. We have a two-hour Integration session where the teachers take questions and then they “coach” participants. I would prefer to just put my question in the chat to the moderator, but this time she encouraged me to ask the question. So with a shaky voice and a rapid heartbeat, I raised my hand in the Zoom call.

My question was about my inability to express anger or frustration. You see, I’m a Five and my dominant type comes from the Head Center. Couple that with my Arrows and it takes a little more for me to get in touch with my feelings. Don’t get me wrong, I’m deeply in touch with my empathy, sadness, and compassion (ask anyone who really knows me and they will tell you I can go from happy to tears in an instant) but those “harder” emotions, anger and frustration, don’t come very naturally to me. I think it is a combination of my observant and reflective ways, my practice of trying not to take things personally, and, as a Five, needing to process these tougher feelings before I share them (which I usually don’t). So I asked the teacher “How can I feel these?”

“When you do feel these emotions, where do you feel them?”, she asked. I replied, “In between my belly and my heart” (a recent golf outing tested this!). As expected, she suggested I take a breath and get very present with the moment. I don’t need to express this feeling, but I do need to feel it. She told me when these unusual feelings (for me) come up, put one hand on my heart and one hand on my belly and just breathe into the feeling. Notice what is happening in my heart center and body center. Stay with whatever I am feeling.

This is what I mean by balancing our Centers of Intelligence. Whether you come from your head, heart or body initially, those other two Centers need attention. We need to get in touch with them because they are telling us something, that is why they are also Centers of Intelligence. I can’t go through life thinking my way through it. I need to feel what my heart is saying and get in tune with what my body is telling me. All three play a role in our presence and can be powerful guides for the moment we are in.

All day long these Centers are activated. We just need to get in touch with them and they will allow us to live from our True Self instead of our Ego or False Self. Daily, our lives teeter back and forth between these two Selves, True and False. It is up to us to deepen our awareness of our Centers of Intelligence so we can tap into the Infinite Knowledge that is available to us when we are present.

Remember I offer FREE Typing sessions - please share this with your friends and family. EVERYONE who has done them enjoys the process and learns quite a bit about themselves whether they continue coaching with me or not.

This week’s blog is about Basic Fears and Desires. These come from our Childhood Messages. The Enneagram is a beautiful blueprint to our True Self. Join me and read up on the Spiral of Discovery and uncover your own Enneagram blueprint.

From Personality to Potentiality

I was dreading it. Pre-prom festivities.   

Don’t get me wrong.  I was excited to see the young men and women dressed up for their prom night.  It would be their last prom together. They all looked great.   

What I was dreading was the small talk and socializing with all the parents.  Give me a small group and I can handle it, not well, but I can handle it.  Dozens and dozens of other adults, well, let’s just say, I feel awkward, very awkward.  Couple that with a lack of being a drinker (maybe I should start!) and for this Five type, I just want to get back in the car and drive home.  To add to this uncomfortableness, I had nothing to wear.  I don’t usually care about this, but I didn’t want to look like I was at work - leggings and a black Smartwool sweater.  So I put on jeans and a black Smartwool sweater.  I hate getting dressed. 

I’m quickly approached by a familiar face.  You think that would be enough for me.  It wasn’t.  I scour the perimeter, looking for the photographer so I can just sit back and watch her do her thing.  That worked for a little while and then the pictures were done.  I counted the minutes and luckily it was getting chilly and I wasn’t dressed appropriately - thank God, so I said to Ernie, “Is it time for us to go?”  My husband knows me well and obliged immediately. 

For a long time, I thought this was the real me. But after studying the Enneagram (and of course, some Eckhart Tolle splashed in), I am reminded this is not me. This is the character I play in life. And whether real or fictional, this is just a character, a personality. I see my type (and your type) everywhere now and I sympathize with them. Just like all the types, the Five wasn’t meant to stay home and hoard our gifts.  To live in to my potential I need to drop this personality trait I have defined myself by. Every single one of us is meant to shine our light with others, dropping our personality and leaning into our Potentiality,

So what have you noticed about yourself that is taking you away from shining your light?  Your scenario might be different but it is still an egoic reaction.  You might always be looking for the next thing to keep you busy (Type Seven and their restlessness) instead of using that enthusiasm to inspire others. Or you might be really good at judging yourself (and others - Type One) so much that your principled nature gets caught in that loop instead of gifting those principles into advocacy.  Or maybe you think everyone else has a great life (Type Four) and you forget how much the world needs your deep emotional intelligence.  The list goes on but you get the picture.  Your forgetfulness has kept you from your potential. When you retreat into typical patterns, you are playing the character of you, the personality of you. Take a look at yourself and uncover the true gifts that you are hiding and gift them to others.  Service using your gifts is the only master plan and requires you to bring awareness to your personality to step into your Potentiality.

I offer affordable monthly coaching for $120/month.  This includes 2 half-hour private sessions and homework (of course). Click here now to start your journey.

(A Free Enneagram typing session is a prerequisite).  

Ahhhh, that's the difference between the Enneagram and those other tests.

The other day I was personally training a client, who happened to also be someone who typed with me. She was a bit confused as to the whole point of the Enneagram and the difference between the Enneagram and other personality assessments. I started to explain how it is a combination of psychology and spirituality (the differentiator). I explained to her that as a Three she likes the spotlight and her personality is such that she tends to showcase her creations (she makes beautiful works of art). That’s the psychology behind her Three-ness - garnering attention. The spirituality behind her type is her true gift - inspiring and teaching others. When she begins to spend more time offering these gifts to the world, she will be less identified with her personality (and what she produces) and more identified with her Essence. She will also feel more present and in flow when she is living on purpose sharing her gift of inspiration and teaching. Shedding our personality so that our light can shine, is really what the Enneagram is all about. I share another aspect of the Enneagram in this week’s blog.

Remember, I offer FREE Enneagram typing sessions. And if you have already been typed, please share this newsletter with a friend! You will have so much more to chat about.

Oprah Daily features the Enneagram prison project

I’m always looking out for transformative ways people are using the Enneagram. You know, beyond the personality memes that while they serve a purpose, aren’t necessarily my purpose. Don’t get me wrong, as far as I’m concerned, spreading the Enneagram love no matter what that looks like, I am all for. I want as many people to experience the Enneagram as possible. But…. for transformative growth (I know, I know, I can’t help myself), you’ve got to push yourself as evidenced by the Enneagram Prison Project.

The Enneagram Prison Project goes into prisons and educates inmates about the Enneagram. It is an eight-week program. I am on their mailing list and received such a beautiful recent email where they were featured in Oprah Daily. You’ve just got to read what a profound effect the Enneagram is having in prisons, especially for the woman featured in this article. You can read all about it here. If this doesn’t convince you of the transformative growth potential of the Enneagram, I’m not sure what will.

If you’ve been typed and would like to book some one-on-one sessions, I have an affordable option with my monthly coaching subscription. For an investment of $120/month, we will meet twice a month (half-hour sessions). This keeps you accountable on your journey which is the BEST way to see some solid personal growth. You will receive some homework (of course - I love homework) and you will see a shift in yourself and the world around you. Yay! Sign up here.

This week’s blog - Spiral of Discovery: Childhood Messages. Check it out here.

Shhh... don't tell anyone. I'm going on a 13 month journey.

I thought that might get you! Truthfully, I am going on a 13-month journey - an inward journey with Russ Hudson. Russ is a world-renowned Enneagram author, teacher, and thinker. He has written several classics about the Enneagram. He and his partner, Don Riso (now deceased) brought the Enneagram to the modern world through their ideas of how Enneagram fuses psychology and spirituality. He believes the Enneagram is the map to understanding our forgetfulness, allowing us to recognize the neural patterns that take us away from our Essence. I have signed up for his 13 month certification in Conscious Living, allowing me to do the deeper inner personal growth work so I can be a better coach (so Type Five of me). I am so excited - this is a win-win!

You too can get to know Russ through his website and free monthly guided practices. This commitment to getting present in body, mind, and heart is the cornerstone of Enneagram teachings - balancing our heart, head, and gut centers of intelligence. This can only be done through daily practice. You can enjoy this practice free from his website where you will receive his monthly practice, https://russhudson.com. You will not regret this!

Remember, to please sign up for my FREE Enneagram typing session. This is my life purpose and mission - to type as many people I possibly can to make a difference in their lives and our world. It truly is a magical tool for personal growth. Here is the link: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/64334

And here is this week’s blog where the Spiral of Discovery continues on to Saboteurs (kind of icky but the heart of the Enneagram self-growth work).

How the Eclipse Shined Light on My Shadow.

A once-in-a-lifetime event happened in our little town - a total solar eclipse. This is the perfect opportunity for this type Five to shine her light.

Waiting for the magic to happen.

Weeks ago, I had planned for my snow tires to be swapped to summers at my car dealership in Burlington. on the Friday before the eclipse. Hmm…Do you think people will be coming up for the weekend that day? What will traffic be like on our two-lane highway into town that afternoon? A quick look at the grocery store parking lot as I drove past en route to my tire swap and it looked like locals were already getting prepared. I will stop in (with my list in hand) and bust out groceries to meal-prep for the weekend. Time management.

Saturday morning, hours spent in the kitchen (Type Fives love their “me” time even if it is for the collective good) local law enforcement cautions locals to stay off the roads (even canceling school on Monday). You don’t have to ask me twice. Stay home? I’m on it!

You see, Type Fives rely almost completely on their thoughts and devising ways to conserve resources. All of this eclipse prep was the perfect scenario to shine my light - shopping before the crowds, staying home, prepping meals, But is that really shining my light, or is it shining light on my shadow? I would say with all of that resource conservation, shadow work is definitely playing out. Did someone say Avarice?

In Chris Heuertz’s book The Enneagram of Belonging, he graciously assigns type-specific loving-kindness mantras to help us manage our Shadows and Saboteurs. I recite them daily (especially when the night-time thoughts creep in) and these phrases have helped me incredibly.

May I be here now.

The view from our spot - Totality.

May I say Yes to the silence.

May I let go.

May I have Faith (I’ve added this one specifically for me to be more open to the Universe’s energy and guidance.)

As my mantra played in my head, tick, tick, tick so did the countdown to totality. I thought about how lucky I was to be experiencing this with Ernie and Brock. This would most likely be something we never experience together again. So be here now, Julie. Say yes to the Silence. Let go. Have Faith.

Preparation for the eclipse brought out the Avarice in me, but when it was time to experience it, my shadow stayed away. The work is a daily thing. And I’m ok with that. When I needed to shine my light and get deeply present, I did and experienced something I will never forget.

Remember, my Enneagram Typing Sessions are FREE. As I explained to a group of women earlier this week - YOU ARE NOT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF ME - typing helps me build my business! So please, if you haven’t been typed, sign up!



This week’s blog is about two of the Enneagram triads. These are very useful triads as they have to do with conflict style and how we interact with others to meet our needs. If you haven’t been typed, maybe reflect on your style and you might be able to discern your type.

Give yourself some grace!

When I was a little girl, I went roller skating with my sister and her friends. She is 10 years older than me and always allowed me to tag along. It was always so much fun and hanging out with real adults was my comfort zone. I remember one time in particular, we stopped to eat some lunch. Someone (who will remain nameless) reached across the table and stole one of my fries right off my plate. I lost it. I actually started crying. Everyone teased me and to this day, they still do but what my little Five-self didn’t know (and clearly no one else did) was that resources were important to me and sharing isn’t my strong suit. Now, had they asked if they could have a fry, I would have (begrudgingly) offered one up (just ask Ernie if I like to share my dinners) but I most likely wouldn’t have lost it.

The why behind this Shadow and behind everyone’s Shadow lies in the Enneagram. When I first learned about my Shadow, it was as if someone turned the lights on. I had the why behind my behavior and when the Shadow becomes conscious, it is truly transformative. Of course, we can’t excuse this behavior as “that’s just me” but we can understand ourselves a little better and through this understanding, give ourselves some grace.

Remember, I am still offering FREE Enneagram typing sessions. If you’ve done it for yourself then now it is time to offer it to someone you love. Your relationship will forever be changed, for the better. And FYI, I LOVE doing these. I feel on purpose. You are not taking advantage of me. I WANT to do them - so please take me up on this offer.

While I know my latest blogs don’t quite have the flavor of former blogs, I am trying to set up a reference system for those who are just beginning to explore the Enneagram. Without this baseline of knowledge, we really can’t get into the specifics of each type. You can read this week’s blog here where I dive into instincts and Subtypes.

You are more than your number.

I remember when someone told me about the Enneagram. She said, “You will love it.” I thought to myself, “I’m more than a number.” I laugh at myself now, knowing which Type I am (5 wing 4 - 4s feel special and unique) and I am so grateful the Universe conspired and now I am an Enneagram Coach. Richard Rohr writes in A Spring Within Us, “The only people who reject the Enneagram in my experience are people who do not understand it or do not have the humility or readiness to recognize how true it is in their own case.” Ha! That was totally me. This is also why you use the term dominant type when typing - we are more than just one number but that one number is an important starting point.

In my Deep Dive workshop, this week we tackled Saboteurs (I will be blogging about those in a couple of weeks). This happens to be one of the icky parts of the Enneagram and takes you a step deeper, adding nuance to the “more than a number” mentality. It is humbling to admit those neural addictions we have come up with to cope in life - our Saboteurs. I shared a moment when my Type Six sister (who tends to worry about most things) shared with me via text that she was worried about a family member. I said (in my Hyper-Rational Type Five way), “He is an adult.” That was all I wrote. Not very EQ of me (which I can access with my wing of Type Four). I now realize I could have validated how she felt (now knowing she is a Six and tends to worry) and still mentioned that he is an adult. Adding more EQ into the situation would have been a win-win. This is part of my life’s work. It brings to mind when a client said to me, “You aren’t that warm and fuzzy.” I remember how shocked I was at that observation. I can now see what she was talking about. Working on it - daily.

You can see how knowing your dominant Type and those of others is mutually beneficial. It helps tremendously with conflict resolution (and personal growth - I know, I know, broken record). But it really does. And between you and me, I would have never admitted to my sister that Hyper-Rational was showing up had I not understood my motivations to behave that way and her motivations to worry. Personal Growth! Familial Growth! (even better). By the way, it is very special doing a workshop with my sister. Just sayin’.

Remember I offer FREE Enneagram typing - no strings attached, I promise.

Typed and Retyped: Now it is your turn

Twice this week, once in a follow-up session and once in a workshop, a typed client needed a revisit with their typing. You see, some types look similar, especially when people have “done the work.” This usually has to do with the Nine Type.

Nines are easy-going, non-confrontational, Buddha-like. In one case a Type Two was confused with a Type Nine. These two types share other types through wings and arrows - complicating the situation. The Type Nine has a Wing 8 and Type 2 has an Arrow 8. Type Nine has a Wing 1 and Type 2 has a Wing 1. And, Type Nine has an Arrow 3, and Type 2 has a Wing 3. Sharing three of their four wings and arrows confuses things. They can appear very similar in personality. (See graphics of Nine and Two and their arrows. Wings flank the Types.)

So, if you’ve done the work, you may look and test like a Nine. It isn’t until a slightly deeper dive reveals the mistype. And then the real work can begin. If you are feeling you’ve been mistyped (either with me or a DIY option online, and especially if you have been typed as a Nine), please reach out to me and schedule a FREE appointment. You CANNOT do the real work of self-observation, self-reflection, or self-development until you have been typed correctly. Because only then, do things make sense and you can see your Type-ness in everything you do. Then you can pivot and grow. Yay for you and everyone around you. And for me, because I LOVE when people are able to learn about themselves.

Also, wanted to share that I am officially an Enneagram University Certified Coach. Pretty fun to be certified since it gives me cred which is important for some people. It was a fun certification because for me it was a deep dive into the Enneagram and I learned so much. Still on that learning path but this certification has given me a wonderful head start.

Check out this week’s blog where we continue our Spiral of Discovery and step into Arrows.

Transformed People Transform People: With your awareness, comes their awareness

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Once, a while ago, on a walk with a friend, I lamented how slow my coaching practice was taking off. “I want to make a difference,” I told her, “I want to impact lives but not tomorrow - I want it done YESTERDAY!” She listened and said, “Jules, you’ve impacted my life and in turn, I have impacted my husband, children, family, and friends - your work has a ripple effect. You are changing the world.” She is so sweet and I’m not sure how true that is, but I thought about this recently as I noticed a shift happening with the participants in my workshops this week.

During Week 1 of my Deep Dive workshop, the participants showed up saying “I never realized I did that” or “I noticed this week how I reacted when _____ happened,” or “When so-and-so does _____, I do _____.” There were other a-ha moments and they all embody what Richard Rohr writes in The Naked Now - We don’t see things how they are, we see things how we are. Seeing ourselves for the first time helps us uncover this truth and then we begin to see others in a completely different light. We realize we’ve been seeing them the way we are. Acknowledging this gives us a different perspective, our reactions shift and those of others in our lives will shift. Transformed people transform people (another steal from Richard Rohr).

While you may have opted out of my workshops, I do have a DIY-ish option. In upcoming blogs, I will take you on a journey - The Spiral of Discovery - where you will learn the Enneagram topics I am covering in the Deep Dive. I hope they get you thinking about yourself. My goal is to help you shift a little so your life shifts (for the better) and those in your life do too. You can read this week’s blog here.


Last Call for Deep Dive Workshop - 2 spots remain, begins 3/14

There is so much to learn about yourself and your loved ones through the Enneagram. I guarantee more fulfilling relationships and a more purposeful life when you join me on this journey of self-discovery. I only have two spots left on my Deep Dive and since I am offering a 2-for-1 on my Deep Dive Enneagram Workshop with a new start date of March 14th you’ll want to jump in! Email me and I can help you with the 2-for-1 deal.

Remember, I offer FREE Enneagram typing. If you want to join the workshop with a friend, they will want to be typed ASAP.

That is all I got this week - still playing catch-up from vacation!

Click Type 9’s Path to Wholeness drawing below for this week’s blog.

Observe. Reflect. Develop. The Personal Growth Journey breakdown

As a life coach, I often tell people that the beginning of change begins with awareness. Until recently, I never really thought about what comes after. With this three step process, Observe - Reflect - Develop, anyone can change their ways and set themselves up for a Future Self in more alignment with purpose.

All change starts with Observation. Nothing has brought this more to light than my personal work with the Enneagram. As a Type Five I have become (painfully) aware of my constant thinking, sprinkle in some fear, some avarice, my need to know and you’ve got a recipe for LOTS of observation. I find myself often pulling back from my typical reactions and just noticing them (especially those thoughts!). Without the Enneagram, it would have taken me so much longer to discover all of the things that make me me and everything I hadn’t noticed before in 58 years. Crazy, huh?

After Observe comes Reflect. Fives are probably pretty good at this since we tend to spend lots of time in our heads. That being said, Reflection lends itself to the why behind the actions. Super important work because if you don’t see the why then the how (Develop) is not possible. Let me explain.

My Center of Intelligence is Head. Knowing that I’m always thinking as a reaction (instead of being in my body or heart) gives me pause to consider another reaction. Recently on vacation, I wanted to wake up and spend some time working on a few things for my coaching work (I know, I’m on vacation, but I actually LOVE doing this kind of thing in some quiet space). Husband had a different plan - “Let’s take a walk to the coffee shop.” Even though I really wanted to be in my head, contemplating my next coaching idea, I had to stop thinking, get in touch with what he wanted (heart and body - he loves walking with me for my latte), and realize ‘I’m on vacation with my husband!’ So we did and of course, it was great. Develop. I know it sounds little, but my initial reaction isn’t about connection. It’s about preserving my resources and doing head-centered things. I kind of knew this about myself but not to the level I know myself now - thanks to the Enneagram. Now, I am rethinking my reactions and getting curious about how to Develop my heart and body centers.

Personal growth takes observation, reflection, and development. The Enneagram fast-tracks all three with the road map provided for transformational growth.

Remember, I offer FREE Enneagram typing, and now is the perfect time to book that since I am offering a 2-for-1 deal on my Deep Dive Enneagram Workshop with a new start date of March 14th. Email me and I can help you with the 2-for-1 deal.

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With Five Children comes Five Types

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No one can predict why people become the Enneagram type they become. We do our best as parents, and our best is usually good enough, but the rest that isn’t good enough is where our human being-ness steps in and gives our children experiences they carry with them for a lifetime. Having Five children, sure there is some predisposition to a certain personality, but we also gave them messages that shaped them.

Our Childhood Message is a part of the Enneagram I use to help type people. It isn’t a time to think back and point fingers at our parents, after all I believe most parents do the best they have with what they’ve got, myself included of course (or at least I want to believe this). Whatever side of that debate you are on, we ALL receive childhood messages because we were children and we had perceptions as children we carry with us through our lifetimes. These perceptions affect many of our responses and decisions we make because we hold this perspective as truth - no matter how immature or untrue it is. In the case of our five children, all raised in the same house, same (ish) rules - five different types.

Here is a rundown of the Childhood Messages. Which one resonates with you?

Type One: It’s not ok to make mistakes

Type Two: It’s not ok to have your own needs

Type Three: It’s not ok to have my own feelings and identity

Type Four: It’s not ok to be too functional or happy

Type Five: It’s not ok to be too comfortable in the world

Type Six: It is not ok to trust myself

Type Seven: It’s not ok to depend on anyone or anything

Type Eight: It’s not ok to be vulnerable or trust anyone

Type Nine: It’s not ok to assert myself

I hope this has intrigued you. I know when typing people, the Childhood Message really blows their minds and then their behavior patterns start to make more sense.

Remember, I offer FREE Enneagram typing, and now is the perfect time to book that since I am offering a 2-for-1 deal on my Deep Dive Enneagram Workshop which starts on March 7th. Email me and I can help you with the 2-for-1 deal.

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